Are You Fearless Or Fearful?

You love the idea of commitment but only in the workplace. You want to commit if it would mean a promotion or a salary hike. You put such a premium on career advancement that anything less than 50 hours spent in the office each week feels like a felony. In fact, you love your work to death even though sometimes you don't get the same amount of loving in return, and all for good reason: you want your life to be a bed of roses-and flowers don't come cheap. On the other hand, you avoid discussing the issue of commitment in a romantic merger because, as you so often brazenly claim over a raised glass of martini, independence is key to your happiness.

The thread that binds you to your boyfriend or girlfriend is as retractable as a doggie leash, and dedication in your relationship only means walking Fido every now and then, and not when it's raining. Any one of the following may be your reason for your commitment phobia or why you fear being stuck to the same person for a long time or a lifetime (especially if put that way). Be honest with yourself and identify the cause of your trepidation; you'll never overcome it unless you do. The past wasn't a blast You've had your share of undesirables and all of them combined have corrupted your idea of a "happy ever after" life.