Sunday, November 16, 2008

Are You Fearless Or Fearful?

You love the idea of commitment but only in the workplace. You want to commit if it would mean a promotion or a salary hike. You put such a premium on career advancement that anything less than 50 hours spent in the office each week feels like a felony. In fact, you love your work to death even though sometimes you don't get the same amount of loving in return, and all for good reason: you want your life to be a bed of roses-and flowers don't come cheap. On the other hand, you avoid discussing the issue of commitment in a romantic merger because, as you so often brazenly claim over a raised glass of martini, independence is key to your happiness.

The thread that binds you to your boyfriend or girlfriend is as retractable as a doggie leash, and dedication in your relationship only means walking Fido every now and then, and not when it's raining. Any one of the following may be your reason for your commitment phobia or why you fear being stuck to the same person for a long time or a lifetime (especially if put that way). Be honest with yourself and identify the cause of your trepidation; you'll never overcome it unless you do. The past wasn't a blast You've had your share of undesirables and all of them combined have corrupted your idea of a "happy ever after" life.

Friday, November 14, 2008

Timing is Everything

One of my blog readers emailed me last week with this question. "My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years. Most of that time we lived in separate cities because I was in grad school. However, when I moved to Atlanta where he worked, there was no real discussion about moving in together. He wanted to wait until we were engaged. Six weeks ago he lost his job. Last night at dinner he suggested he move into my place and that it might be time to talk about getting married. I really want to get married. However, his situation seems really unstable. What do you think?"

Plain and simple, the answer is no. He was in no mood to get married until he was going to be unable to pay rent. I think you might say something to him like this, "We have taken our relationship at a very conservative pace. I think it's clear it's a priority for both of us that we do not rush and that we are both in really stable places in our own lives before we take the next step together. I don't know what the next step is, getting married or engaged, or just moving in together. However, I do know when we take that step, you will feel better if you have your ducks in a row before we do anything. The timing just isn't right."

Tuesday, September 23, 2008

Silent Ways He Says I Love You

The eyes are the windows of the soul. Men's eyes sparkle when they want something. So, if you observe the sparkle, his feelings are deep. If you observe eyes that fix you admiringly, the man's feelings are profound. There are 2 types of saying ''I love you'' by means of eyes. First of all we have the glance type ''I love you'' when you are surrounded by other persons and your lover thinks that he is very lucky to have you for himself only. Then there is the other type of glance, long and persistent, a glance that you respond, a glance that shows you he is vulnerable to you charm. Do not mistake this second type of glance with the naughty one, of those men who want to make moves at you - we are talking about your lover now.

You Love Him More Than He Loves You

If you are in a relationship and you love him more than he loves you it's a bit torturous. As women we want the men we are with to be as crazy about us as we are about them. If your man seem less than enthusiastic about having you in his life, you're stuck in the middle of a conflict. Do you wait and see if things will change or do you end things and seek out another relationship in which you may feel more valued? If you truly care about him and want a future with him, there are definitely things you can do to make him fall deeper in love.

It's generally fairly easy to tell when you love him more than he loves you. Chances are that you are the one who generally initiates contact, you talk about the future and you go out of your way to do things that make his life easier. If you are guilty of these things, you need to change your behavior now. If you want your man to love you more you have to be less accommodating. You need to show him that he doesn't have your affection all wrapped up. The old idea of playing hard to get can actually work even if you're in a committed relationship.

The First Key to a Healthy Relationship

Emotional Independence is where you don't make someone else responsible for your happiness. You create it for yourself and the right partner complements you by not imposing his stuff onto you. You take charge of nurturing yourself and emanating positive loving energy. By doing so, you actually provide a role model for your guy to follow in developing his emotional independence.

Interestingly, I find that most people don't strive towards having a healthy relationship. I hear women saying they just want to be happy with their partner, or they want to find their true love, or they want to be with the man of their dreams.


Then you present yourself with clarity to your partner, thereby creating understanding in your dynamic. This forms a mature interdependence where each person is seen as an individual that is supportive of an evolving relationship.

The Relationship Journey

Relationship is a mirror - Why all of us resonate to the word "relationship" is that there is no better way to know your Self than through relationship. When we are with another person, the other person becomes our mirror - we see our reflection. The things we like become reflected back to us and the things we don't like come reflected back as well.
Journey of Self - discovery- So...you start one place and end up another. T.S. Eliot said, "It's ending up where you began but knowing the place for the first time." Each relationship gives you an opportunity to see your Self, to stop repeating self-sabotaging patterns, and refine the journey to Self-discovery. This is the human experience and we are all in this together. Through reaching out and trying to connect with another, we end up connecting with our Self, and find our way back home.

Here is Why Women Avoid Men

Do you know that if the girl is trying to avoid you then it's not her but actually you? You see it's your own actions which are actually making her avoid you? Women only react to a guys actions around them and this is where you need to be highly careful. You see you might be doing something which might seem right to you at that very moment but it might be completely wrong according to her due to which she might be willing to avoid you. This is the prime reason why you must know this. Read on to discover some of the major reasons why women avoid men and what you should do about it...
Making it obvious to her that you are trying to pick her up- This is another big mistake a lot of guys out there end up making. You see women aren't out there looking to get picked up but they are just out there looking for people who are fun to be with. Being too direct about such a thing will only force her to avoid you and you might not be able to keep her attention at all therefore make sure you do an indirect approach.

Safety Always Comes First .Cruise Ship

Don’t forget that the cruise ships have a safe where you can store any of your valuables. You will be able to able to store them in your cabin safe or even the captain’s safe. This is very important because it’s not wise to allow your most valuable items to be lying around the cabin or room. With the maids and all the conspiracies, you will find that you are going to be easily targeted. The locks are not changed that often and you will find that you’ll not be safe leaving important things in your room. When it comes to the wallets, you should never leave it in your back pocket. It is so easy for others to pick pocket when the wallet is in your back pocket. You may want to wear a money belt under your clothes, but you will also want to use your front pockets, because you’ll know if someone is in your pocket. You will want to make sure that you keep your money separated. You will want to make sure that you don’t bring attention on yourself by carrying large amounts. You also don’t want to look flashy or have the bling-bling showing. When you do this, you are bringing notice to yourself by some shady characters.

These tips should not be shocking because they are common sense. You will find that there are a lot of people who don’t take these simple precautions and then they end up having their stuff taken. Rather you are staying on a ship or in a hotel it is important that you protect yourself from being a target. You will want to make sure that you have a good journey and enjoy your vacation.

Plan Your Cruise Vacation And Save Time

Naturally you need to sort out things like when and where you want to cruise as well as with which cruiseline, which ship and what things you want to do off the ship. Do you want to cruise to Alaska and watch whales or stay warm and cruise the Caribbean? Would you rather sail on a massive ocean liner or does a smaller, more elegant vessel interest you? Are you ready to leave tomorrow or would you rather wait and search out the deals? When the ship docks in the various ports of call, will you remain on the ship, head out shopping or go on a fun filled, exciting shore excursion?
Let's not forget your friendly local travel agent. Sure you can research and book your flights and cruises all by yourself online, but if you find it overwhelming, don't be afraid to let the professionals take care of you. Sometimes paying a few extra dollars is worth it to know that someone else has taken care of the details. My guides and the forum participation will still insure that you are able to make informed decisions.

Monday, September 15, 2008

World's Popular Tourist Attractions and Destinations at a Discount

Make the most of your vacation or business trip and save time and money with travel passes! Part of the experience when visiting another city or a country, whether on you are on vacation or on a business trip, is to visit the popular or famous attractions and landmarks. However, while it can be a great experience, the hassle of standing in queues can be frustrating.

In London you may want to visit The Tower of London, or Windsor Castle? Or how about St Paul's Cathedral, The Queen's Gallery, the HMS Belfast perhaps, or would you prefer London Zoo? With so many great attractions to choose from you will be spoilt for choice. The London Pass is the ideal travel pass for you

Saturday, August 9, 2008

Healthy Relationship Using These Simple Techniques


Before bringing a dog into your life it is important to understand that there is a level of commitment that is necessary. The relationship that you can get from your dog is one of the greatest relationships that you can have. Dogs truly are man's best friend when the dog is treated with love and compassion. There are many considerations that need to be addressed when bringing a dog into your home so that both you and your dog will have a long loving relationship.
You will need to take your dog to the vet for routine visits. Your dog will need to have their shots every year. It is important to keep your dog up to date with these shots as to avoid any life threatening diseases. Please also make sure that your dog is on a heart worm preventative to keep his heart healthy. Your Vet will suggest which heart worm preventative that your dog will do best on.